bachata music

I love latin music but religion plays a big role in my life. I know that it is important not to be involved with activities that would normally cause us to sin. We should not be involved in activities that will cause us to even have the least chance of sinning. However, I don’t see how it is sinful to go out to dance to Latin music with your wife or even with a girlfriend that you Truly love. This could also include someone that you are trying to have a serious relationship with. I am not an alcoholic, in fact I probably drink three beers a year. Having s** outside of marriage is honestly a turnoff for me at this time in my life. When I am on a date I am NOT trying to check out every cleavage or booty that pa**es by. So, how am I sinning if I am trying to enjoy myself with a significant other and nothing else? I am obviously not going value every single answer given but I will consider most answers.